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How to Love Your Teen When They Act Unlovable

How to Love Your Teen When They Act Unlovable

Teen Behavior and Substance Abuse

I just had the privilege of working with some parents in one of our local school districts. Eighty five parents answered a brief survey about the top things they struggle with in parenting teens. The results are in. Parents struggle with their teens disrespectful...

Laura Lyles Reagan, MS

Dr. Shefali Tsabary and Laura Lyles Reagan at Evolve

For more than 30 years, Sociologist Laura Lyles Reagan has worked in youth development and parent education. Her approach, called co-creation, helps teens and parents grow the skills they need for positive relationships. Seen here with Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent and Oprah’s “favorite parenting expert,” who invited her to her annual event, Evolve. 

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Laura Lyles Reagan holds a Masters of Science in Sociology. She's spent over 30 years working as a passionate community advocate, specializing in child and youth advocacy, mentoring, youth development, academic success models, parenting, and family poverty issues. She's a professional parenting coach, writer, and speaker.

 

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This is still my why! #parentingsociology #conscio This is still my why! #parentingsociology #consciousparenting #consciousparentingwithteens #consciouscommunication #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
// Weekly Action-able Tip about Teens and Schoolwo // Weekly Action-able Tip about Teens and Schoolwork // Are you tired of playing the role of homework police? Does regular prompting and nagging wear you down? There is another way! This week, we are anticipating the first report cards and talking about doing school differently. Arming teens with self-knowledge about their own learning styles and needs helps them take a healthy sense of control for their own learning styles and preferences. Then they can become their own best advocate at school, and you don't have to play middleman or assignment cop. I have a survey on learning styles to use with your teen. Who wants it? Type learning styles in the comments below and I will message it right over. Or I can send it by email if you prefer. Just share your email address. #teenempowerment #nagging #homeworkpolicefreedom #parentingteens #parentingtweensndteens #parentingteenagers #parentingtips #consciousparenting #consciouscommunication #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
// Action-able Tip to Improve Your Teen Relationsh // Action-able Tip to Improve Your Teen Relationship // If you are not able to speak to your tweens and teens as equals in communication, then you are preparing them to be controlled or be controlling (be a bully) in life because every relationship will be about power and control. If, however, you speak to your tween or teen as if what they have to say is just as important as what you have to say, you are laying the foundation for them to be able to stand up for themselves and treat others with respect, dignity and equality. #consciouscommunicationskills #consciousparenting #consciouscommunication #parentingteens #parentingteenagers #parentingtweensandteens #parentingtips #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
// #1 Parenting Behavior to Avoid to Grow Our Teen // #1 Parenting Behavior to Avoid to Grow Our Teen's Confidence // I want to share the #1 behavior to avoid in parenting that will help foster your teen’s confidence. When we stop this behavior, we will see connection and respect grow. It is, attempts to control our teens. Our attempts at control, only serve to push our teens away from us and undermine their autonomy, confidence and agency. (Agency in this case means the independent, responsible choice-making we say we want to nurture in our teens.) You may ask, what are controlling behaviors in parenting anyway? Sara Regan, relationship writer and Hillary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW share the following controlling parental behaviors as examples. · Interfering in your teen’s participation in various aspects of their lives. Speaking about controlling parents, Dr. Shefali Tsabury says, “Parents want to influence the child and be a part of their every decision.” · Criticize choices their children make independently. · Conditional love (can be characterized by withdrawing and withholding) · Rigid and often unrealistic rules · Lack of empathy and respect · Unusually harsh punishments · Lack of appreciation for individuality · Expecting the child (in our case teen) to act like an adult · Manipulation with gifts · Using guilt and shame As I often share, communication is a mirror or measure of the health of our relationships. Communication reveals how we value our teens or if we are projecting our own fears, anxieties and traumas onto them. Each of us need support to make the changes our hearts desire and our teens need. I encourage you to reach out to the trusted others who have trekked this journey. If you are ready to learn the conscious communication skills (in order) that demonstrate the respect and dignity you and your teen deserve, you can still join my NEW Back on Track Parent Group Coaching Experience for one more week before I close it. It is half price now; price goes up next round. Private message me and I will get you signed up. #groupcoaching #parentcoaching #parentingteens #parentingteenagers #consciouscommunication #raiserespectfulparents #heart2heartparents
// Your Invitation to Tonight's Group Coaching Ses // Your Invitation to Tonight's Group Coaching Session for FREE // Brene Brown says vulnerability is our superpower. I say simply, we need each other! It really does take a village to raise a teen and you don't have to do it alone. You're invited to the first parent coaching session for the Back on Track 2.0 Group. (The first session scheduled tonight is FREE. That way you can sample group coaching to see if it's for you.) But what is it really, you ask? What: This Unique Parent Coaching Group Experience integrates 1) the conscious communication skills to use in real life conversations with teens and 2) relevant youth development research to prevent problems in the teen mental health crisis. Parents find the experience singularly supportive and see major improvement with their teens as a result. But don’t take my word for it. See the testimonials at the end. Facilitated by: Yours truly, Laura Lyles Reagan, MS, sociologist, youth development researcher, award-winning author and parent and teen communication coach, helping parents and teens move from conflict and tension to connection and collaboration. When: Every Tuesday evening for 6 weeks, beginning September 13th Live via Zoom at 7pm CST/ 8pm EST/ 5pm PST Cost: 6 Sessions for the Price of 5 (First one is FREE) Private message me for the Zoom link to join in 1.5 hours!
Feeling overwhelmed? Tired of going it alone? Rais Feeling overwhelmed? Tired of going it alone? Raising teens these days requires lots of support? I’ve created the group coaching experience I always wanted. The 6-week experience will teach you life changing communication skills infused with positive youth development research to help teens grow beyond the current mental health crisis. Our Back to School, Back on Track Parent Group Coaching starts this coming Tuesday evening, the 13th and meets for the next 5 Tuesday evenings. The first session is FREE for you to get a taste of it before you commit. Message me for the PDF with all the details including the Zoom link to join. #parentingteens #parentingteenagers #parentingtweensandteens #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #consciousliving #communicationskills #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
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Weekly Action-able Tip: Every interaction can be Weekly Action-able Tip: Every interaction can be an opportunity to change, to adopt a new attitude or communicate as respectful equals. It doesn't mean you have to agree. It doesn't mean you compromise your position as parent. It means you communicate as if what they have to say, is just as important as what you have to say. Imagine, your teen as the confident launching young adult you hope for and talk to that person. It can shift the relational dynamic. Try it and let us know how it goes in the comments below. If you find that hard to do, message me, let's chat about it. #parentingteens #parentingtweensandteens #parentingteenagers #consciousparenting. Heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
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