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What’s Behind Your Teen’s Behavior?

What’s Behind Your Teen’s Behavior?

Communicating with Teens, Connection Through Teen Anxiety, Conscious Communication, teen behavior

I recently had a coaching session with a mom named Chris (names have been changed), who was feeling tremendous anxiety because her daughter had not completed her college applications and the deadlines were looming. Chris was absolutely convinced that there must be...

Laura Lyles Reagan, MS

Dr. Shefali Tsabary and Laura Lyles Reagan at Evolve

For more than 30 years, Sociologist Laura Lyles Reagan has worked in youth development and parent education. Her approach, called co-creation, helps teens and parents grow the skills they need for positive relationships. Seen here with Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent and Oprah’s “favorite parenting expert,” who invited her to her annual event, Evolve. 

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  • How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting
  • How to Prevent the Pandemic Blues to Find Deep Connection with Teens
  • Make Every Moment Count with Your Teen in 2021
  • What’s Behind Your Teen’s Behavior?
  • The Pandemic Paradox for Online Learning School Success

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Laura Lyles Reagan holds a Masters of Science in Sociology. She's spent over 30 years working as a passionate community advocate, specializing in child and youth advocacy, mentoring, youth development, academic success models, parenting, and family poverty issues. She's a professional parenting coach, writer, and speaker.

 

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Parent&Teen Coach, Author, Sociologist, helping parents&teens make respectful communication breakthroughs. Get the No Conflict Conversation Checklist.
Is your stress level sky high? Some of you have be Is your stress level sky high? Some of you have been home with your kids for over a year! Maybe the balancing act of homeschooling and working from home is wearing you down? . Some teens embraced online learning. Others are depressed and unmotivated to return to school regardless of its form. . Stress and anxiety is incredibly appropriate in a pandemic! . Like you, I was thrust into homeschooling, but it was due to my daughter's illness and we were in major conflict over it. It was really tough managing her treatment plan, making decisions about how to finish her high school degree via homeschool and trying to hold down a full-time job and grow a business. Plus, I was a single parent! . The situation became the refiner's fire for our relational gold as a teen and parent, because I couldn't solve these major issues on my own! . Not only did I need to engage her in problem solving in a new way and move from futile attempts to control, to deep satisfying connection, but I needed to reach out for help to get us there. . And now you can get the same support that I had, to reach our connected calm, to guide you through your parenting journey. . Often its the small shifts in perspective and action that can create major transformation in your relationship that create your breakthrough to connected calm. . Imagine being able to communicate with your teen so you both truly listen and they create solutions WITH you. . Because I'm so passionate about shared problem solving in parent teen relationships, especially in this time of struggle, I am offering the very guide I use in coaching teens to own their learning style. The guide can serve as a conversation guide to help you help your teen map a plan of action to use extrinsic motivators to build the future they deserve. . Just type "guide" in the comments below and I will send it to you in a private message. . Or as the country opens up, if you feel one conversation with them won't do it, set up a call me to discuss my coaching program, QuaranTEEN Back to School. Link in bio.
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Happy Easter Weekend! May you have this kind of jo Happy Easter Weekend! May you have this kind of joy.
It’s just not personal! I share this with parent It’s just not personal! I share this with parents all the time when their teens “act out.” And I even remind myself about this when my young adult daughters seem rude to me. It may feel personal but it’s likely one of 2 things. 1) We are NOT “hearing” the need behind the behavior AND/OR 2) it’s developmental, meaning they are going through and trying to grow through something.
Monday Motivation: Have you hugged your teen today Monday Motivation: Have you hugged your teen today?
One day at a time. One interaction a time. #parent One day at a time. One interaction a time. #parentingteens #raiserespectfulparents #consciousparenting #parentingsociology #parentsinrecovery
Co-creation in conscious parenting is the highest Co-creation in conscious parenting is the highest form of respect. . Co-creation goes beyond the non-coercive parenting approach because power is no longer the basis of relating. Power sharing can't be the the basis of relationship because parents will always have more social experience and legal status than children. The power differential will always influence the relationship. . But, co-creation in relationship defines the relating by responsibility, not power. In co-creating relationships with our teens, we share the responsibility for the relationship. Co-creating trusts that our teen's have their own wisdom and establishes the emotionally and spiritually safe space to draw out, support and nurture that wisdom. . How is this achieved? By communicating from the heart in every interaction. , When we do our own inner work, we can be as emotionally and spiritually present as possible in as many interactions as we can. To the best of our ability we free ourselves of projections. We learn conscious communication skills that represent our own truth in real time, in real conversations which carries an underlying invitation to our teens to share their truth. . Not only is co-creation a constant invitation to connect on a heart-level by the way we communicate our heart messages, it has the added benefit of modeling respectful communication for our teen's futures. The conscious communication skills that voice our truth is the very way teens can respectfully stand for themselves with us and every other relationship as they launch. . Co-creating (sharing responsibility in relationships) is the path to learning how to be a "successful" adult. And isn't that our parenting purpose to raise teens to be responsible, contributing adults?
I've encountered so many misconceptions about cons I've encountered so many misconceptions about conscious parenting lately, especially what it means to parent teens consciously. . Conscious parenting is NOT permissive parenting. Conscious parenting prioritizes the relationship. . To me, it means freeing myself up as much as I can to be fully present in as many interactions with my teen as I can. Realistically that means, I have a way to examine my triggers and regain centeredness to be able to relate to kids as cleanly as possible. Having said that, I will be triggered! And so will you. . Having personal practices to center myself and using conscious communication skills to emotionally and verbally own my side of the street, demonstrates to teens that its okay to be human and gives them a graceful pathway to communicate respectfully or create space when needed if things get uncomfortable. . Holding boundaries is a crucial part of any relationship. One of the simplest but most profound ways of holding a boundary is to state what we feel, think, want, value or need. Holding boundaries at its core is truth-telling. For more, visit link in the bio.
I’m on a mission to help parents in recovery tra I’m on a mission to help parents in recovery transmit recovery principles by relating heart to heart in their families. Since my family of origin came to recovery later in life, I didn’t have a model of how to share or speak consciously. I set out on a course of study and awakenings that led me to develop a type of roadmap through conscious communication skills. These skills led me to speak openly about recovery concepts with my children and facilitate discussions about their choices regarding alcohol. Communicating from the heart laid the foundation to break the generational cycle of alcoholism in our roots. My work in the conscious parenting movement and in recovery finds alignment by offering an adaptation of the Twelve Steps of Conscious Parenting and the Twelve Steps for Recovering Parents. See link in the bio.
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