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Conscious Parenting is NOT Permissive Parenting

Conscious Parenting is NOT Permissive Parenting

Conscious Communication, conscious parenting, holding boundaries, parenting journey, Teen and Parent Relationship Coaching

I’ve encountered so many misconceptions about conscious parenting lately, especially what it means to consciously parent teens. Conscious parenting is NOT permissive parenting. Conscious parenting prioritizes the relationship with our child. To me, it means...
Make Every Moment Count with Your Teen in 2021

Make Every Moment Count with Your Teen in 2021

Co-created Connection with Teens, Conscious Communication, New Year, parenting journey

My birthday is always a time of reflection and renewal for me. Since its so close to New Year’s Day, I take stock of the previous year and boy was it a doozy. Not only did we weather a pandemic, but I also had life altering milestones in my family. My father passed...

Laura Lyles Reagan, MS

Dr. Shefali Tsabary and Laura Lyles Reagan at Evolve

For more than 30 years, Sociologist Laura Lyles Reagan has worked in youth development and parent education. Her approach, called co-creation, helps teens and parents grow the skills they need for positive relationships. Seen here with Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent and Oprah’s “favorite parenting expert,” who invited her to her annual event, Evolve. 

Recent Posts

  • How to Deal with Perceived “Back Talk” – A Conscious Parenting Perspective
  • Secret Solutions to Parent Overwhelm
  • How to Help Your Teen Finish the Pandemic School Year Strong
  • Conscious Parenting is NOT Permissive Parenting
  • How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting

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Laura Lyles Reagan holds a Masters of Science in Sociology. She's spent over 30 years working as a passionate community advocate, specializing in child and youth advocacy, mentoring, youth development, academic success models, parenting, and family poverty issues. She's a professional parenting coach, writer, and speaker.

 

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// Actively Listening is the Bedrock of Conscious // Actively Listening is the Bedrock of Conscious Communication with Teens//

Here's an example of active listening from my online course, Turn Your Teen Around.

Example: 
Alexa: "Dad, can I take the car on Saturday? A bunch of us, want to go to the new Marvel movie." 

Dad: "You want to use the car on Saturday?" 

Alexa: "Yes dad. That’s what I said! Its really important to me." 

Dad: "So, you are really excited about seeing this movie with your friends on Saturday?" 

Alexa: "Yes, Dad. I’m so glad you get it. Jenny said she would come with Tiffany and Karen. And Jenny and I haven’t been getting along since the whole Ryan thing." 

Dad: "Ryan is the boy you both had a crush on, right? (Dad snuck in a clarifying question here.) So, this is a chance to mend the fences with Jenny." 

Alexa: "Well, I wouldn’t put it that way, Dad, but yes, that’s why it’s important." 

Dad: "Thanks for telling me about it. I was going to put my car in the shop on Saturday morning. If it's repaired on-time, you can use it. But if not, maybe Mom, can help.” 
  If Dad had simply responded with a yes or no answer to Alexa’s car request, he would have missed out on being let inside of Alexa’s world. By demonstrating interest and reflecting her feeling of excitement about the movie, he also learned that she was anxious to repair her relationship with Jenny. Alexa felt closer to her dad as a result of that disclosure. It grew trust between them. I even suspect the conversation ended in a hug. To budding young women, disputes over potential boyfriends and the social capital won or lost in their inner circles all pave the way for growing emotional intelligence which will serve them lifelong. Having an empathetic parent facilitates and smooths that social learning.'

 - Excerpt from Turn Your Teen Around by Tuning into Yourself (Course link in the bio.) #consciouscommunication #activelylisteningwithteens #activelylisteningtoteens #activelylistening #consciousparenting #parentingteens #parentingtweensandteens #parentingsociology #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
// The How and Why of Actively Listening to our Te // The How and Why of Actively Listening to our Teens //

I’ve been talking about the importance of listening lately. I believe it’s the foundation to make the summer count with your teen. Here's an excerpt from my online course, Turn Your Teen Around, that can help to clarify the how and why of actively listening. 

'Actively listening to our tween, teen or young adult is the most important part of parenting! It is the greatest skill for co-creation and building the relationship you both need and deserve with your adolescent. Actively listening builds confidence, character and agency. It is the single most important thing a parent can do to build resilience in their teens against the myriad of social forces they confront daily. 

Listening shows our commitment, encourages reciprocity, is an act of affirmation. Dr. Tali Shenfield reminds us that the hallmark of active listening is empathy. Empathy grows when we put ourselves in the place of “the other,” our children. 

Conscious parenting is built on empathy. That’s why we must be honest about our parenting purpose. If we see our children as extensions of ourselves or in narcissistic fulfillment of an unmet need within ourselves, then we miss the blessing of knowing who they are and supporting their journey. How do we stretch and grow empathy? 

The very act of actively listening to our tween, teen or young adult gives us the path. That counsel sounds circular in nature, and it is. The hallmark of active listening is empathy, but active listening can grow empathy. 

When we actively listen, we are listening to summarize the message that the communicator is sending and reflect their feeling. That means our own emotional awareness must stretch to name the feeling(s) we experience. 
 - Excerpt from Laura Lyles Reagan's Online Course, Turn Your Teen Around (Course link in the bio.) #activelisteningtoteens #activelistening #consciouscomminication #consciouscommunicationskills #consciousparenting #parentingsociology #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
Just one day till the Back on Track Group Coaching Just one day till the Back on Track Group Coaching Experience for Brave Parents Raising Teens! The friends and family cost (which you are if you are a group member) is only $250 for 6 sessions! We will apply cutting edge social research to the conscious communication skills I teach that will not only help your teen navigate the teen mental health crisis, but will also make this summer with your teen truly count! Message me to sign up (no qualifications for group members). I will send you the Zoom link right over after payment. I can’t wait to see you! #consciouscommunicationwithteens #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #backontrackparentcoaching #groupcoachingforparents #parentingteens #parentingtweensandteens #parentinglaunchingyoungadults #parentingteenagers #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
The NEW Back on Track Group Coaching Experience st The NEW Back on Track Group Coaching Experience starts in 2 days! Have you signed up? (Comment for the PDF with details.)

If you've wondered about how to get your teen to listen and make the impact your heart desires before there are no summer's left, this group is for you! 

We will review the conscious communication skills with real teen/parent scenarios AND we will apply the current research on nurturing teens through the current teen mental health crisis. Don't miss this! 

Comment below and I will send you the PDF with the details right away and/or private message me and I will sign you right up and get you the Zoom link.  #backontrackparentgroup #groupcoaching #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #parentingteens #parentingtweensndteens #parentingyoungadults #heart2heartparenting #raiserespectfulparents
I'm so excited! Just 3 more days till our Back on I'm so excited! Just 3 more days till our Back on Track Group starts. Have you signed up yet? 

Type "group" below if you would like the PDF with more info and message me if you would like to register.  #backontrackgroup #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #teenmentalhealth #parentingteens #parentingteeensandteens #parentingteenagers #heart2heartparents #parentingsociology #raiserespectfulparents
I'm so excited to be featured today on Sarah K Ram I'm so excited to be featured today on Sarah K Ramsey's nationally recognized, Toxic Person Proof Podcast! We had an awesome conversation about teen mental health. Thanks Sarah. (Watch for her new book coming out soon too!) 
#toxicpersonproof #raiserespectfulparents #parentingsociology #teenmentalhealth #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #consciouscommunicationwithteens #heart2heartparents #parentingteens #parentingtweensandteens #parentingtips
// Anyone relate to this? // I felt pressure in t // Anyone relate to this? //

I felt pressure in the summer as a parent. I felt a deep need to make an IMPACT with the few summers I had left with my teens. I wanted to talk about all the things I thought they needed to hear before they launched and left home.

Until I learned and practiced the conscious communication skills that I share with you, I really didn't know how
to listen so my teens would open up and go talk so that they would listen.

When I used the skills, in EVERY conversation, every interaction became an opportunity for connection and impact and my fear about "preparing" my teens for a successful future greatly diminished.

Can you imagine parenting without fear and anxiety?

This summer, I've got you covered about how to make summer count with your teens. In just 6 weeks, you can learn, role play with real demonstration conversations to impact your teen by joining the NEW, Back on Track Parent Group Coaching Experience.

Not only will you master the communication skills with nonjudgmental parents who are experiencing what you are experiencing, but we will apply the current youth development research.

What?

The NEW Back on Track Parent Group Coaching Experience
A 6-week group coaching program for brave parents raising teens. Teens have never confronted so many conflicted messages. No one can raise a healthy balanced teen without a village! So, we are co-creating one.

Why now?
I know it's hard to schedule things in the summer.
You only have a few more summers with your teen (or maybe this is the last one). Mastering conscious communication can set a positive trajectory for their future and yours, including a positive relationship in the future.

When?
It starts Tuesday evening, June 21st at 7pm CST/ 8pm EST/ 6pm MST/ 5pm PST for only 6- weeks
  How? 
We meet virtually (in your sweats and slippers) Just message me to enroll. I will ask you a few qualifying questions and invite you in with the Zoom link. AND the group experience is priced to not harm your vacation budget.

I can't wait to hear from you! #backontrackparentcoaching #parentingteens #consciousparents #consciouscommunication
I’m getting great community questions lately? I’m getting great community questions lately? 

•	1) What do I do if my teen’s friend is talking about suicide? 

•	2) My daughter has seen me devalue myself how do I help heal both of us with credibility? 

•	3) How should I celebrate my motherhood when my teen graduates? 

We will apply conscious communication skills and positive youth development research to tackle these and your own questions in my NEW Back on Track Group Coaching Experience! 

What is it? 

For 6 short weeks this summer (beginning Tuesday evening, June 21st) we meet to tackle your burning questions, master conscious communication and apply cutting edge social research to the real life scenarios you live every day. 

Who’s in?? 

(Hint: It’s priced to not harm your vacay budget!) Message me to get details and register.
For help to stay on track this summer with your te For help to stay on track this summer with your teen, you can grab the new course!

Shifting to Conscious Conversations with Your Teen

It is offered with fellow conscious parent coach Shalini Josen and it's a demonstration of conscious conversations on hot teen topics, like...

•	back talk vs. respectful communication,

•	chores vs. contribution

•	grades vs. character and asset building

•	screentime vs. skills building.

Just $27. (Can't buy an extra-large pizza for the fam for that!)

Grab the link under the offerings tab of the website, LauraLReagan.com 

#parentingcourse #consciousconversationswithteens
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