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Laura Lyles Reagan, MS

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Laura Lyles Reagan holds a Masters of Science in Sociology. She's spent over 30 years working as a passionate community advocate, specializing in child and youth advocacy, mentoring, youth development, academic success models, parenting, and family poverty issues. She's a professional parenting coach, writer, and speaker.

 

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Self-care while important, isn't a cure all! Perha Self-care while important, isn't a cure all! Perhaps it’s time to ditch the self-blame game and take positive action. Truthfully, NO amount of parental self-care will change a teen that has shut down. (You may still fantasize about saying the "right thing" at the "right moment" to bring your teen around.) Often what we need when parenting teens, isn’t only self-care, but we need community care to make sustainable change from the inside out that is reflected in how we communicate. And we need a trusted guide(s) to help. No one can parent alone in this complicated world. That’s what parent communication coaching is all about. As a parent and teen communication coach and a sociologist and parent and teen communication coach, I support and gently, non-judgmentally help parents and teens move from inner and outer conflict to real connection, that builds positive futures. If you identify with this and don't want to waste the summer (yes, they only have a few summers of connections left with you), simply message me. I want to share all about my Back on Track Parent and Teen Communication Coaching Program. I will ask you a few qualifying questions, then invite you to join. this transformative process if we are a match or refer you on to the right coach, therapist or community for you. I can't wait to hear from you! #selfcare #communitycare #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #parentingteens #parentingtweensandteens #braveparentsraisingteens #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
Perhaps self-care is a cliché at this point. I ha Perhaps self-care is a cliché at this point. I have an aversion to the hyphenated word, quite frankly. It is so overused that we hardly know what it means and at its core, the meaning is highly personalized. To me, “self-care” used to conjure up notions of bubble baths and bon bons, which is far from the model of motherhood I saw. I was raised with a sacrificial model of motherhood and a resentful mother as a result. While she was responsible for that reaction, she’s not to blame. She had fewer choices in her era. She had a keen intellect and was told that raising children alone should fulfill her. Naturally, our boundaries were enmeshed in part because she had no life, and my father’s alcoholism sealed the deal. (I’m ever grateful we’ve grown through all that.) Nevertheless, when boundaries are not clearly defined and personhood is co-dependent, self-care becomes the antidote and treatment. The word self-care evokes isolation and extreme self-reliance to me, but nothing could be farther from the truth. (I had to re-map my synaptic response to the word.) Self-care does not have to be pitted against community care as I feared. In fact, part of self-care is a healthy reliance on trusted friends in true community. And that's what we can do when we reach out to each other in this group and it's what you can do when you reach out to explore parent coaching options. If you would like to discuss coaching programs, send me a direct message. I will ask you some qualifying questions and invite you to the right program if we are a match. In the meantime, check out the second slide and post your go to self care actions. #selfcare #soulcare #consciouscommunication #parentingteens #parentingtweensandteens #freedomfromcodependence #heart2heartparents #raiserespectfulparents
I've encountered so many misconceptions about cons I've encountered so many misconceptions about conscious parenting lately, especially what it means to parent teens consciously. . Conscious parenting is NOT permissive parenting. Conscious parenting prioritizes the relationship. . To me, it means freeing myself up as much as I can to be fully present in as many interactions with my teen as I can. Realistically that means, I have a way to examine my triggers and regain centeredness to be able to relate to kids as cleanly as possible. Having said that, I will be triggered! And so will you. . Having personal practices to center myself and using conscious communication skills to emotionally and verbally own my side of the street, demonstrates to teens that its okay to be human. That gives them a graceful pathway to communicate respectfully or create space when needed if things get uncomfortable. . Holding boundaries is a crucial part of any relationship. One of the simplest but most profound ways of holding a boundary is to state what we feel, think, want, value or need. Holding boundaries at its core is truth-telling. #raiserespectfulparents #heart2heartparents #consciousparenting #consciouscommunication #consciouscommunicationwithteens #parentingteens #braveparentsraisingteens #parentingtweensandteens #parentingteenagers
I-Messages invite discussion whereas You-Messages I-Messages invite discussion whereas You-Messages shut teens down. Here are examples of I-Messages. What are some I-Messages you've said to your teens? #imessages #raiserespectfulparents #heart2heartparents #consciouscommunication #consciouscommunicationwithteens #consciousparenting #parentingteens #parentingtweensandteens
// Don't miss the Opportunity to Connect and Build // Don't miss the Opportunity to Connect and Build Skills // Happy Spring Break! Today I'm responding to a community question from 2 parents who are asking for the best way to address their teens asking for permission to go to spring break activities. I believe in co-creative communication, meaning both parties equally share their perspectives which automatically gives the chance to jointly and respectfully create solutions. For example, I used the opportunity my daughter gave us when she asked to go to a concert by herself with friends for the first time. I'm grateful, I didn't fall in the trap of automatically saying "yes" or "no." I asked her if she thought she was ready and what her safety plan was? Then I asked the following questions. "1.) Will you locate the security booth and exits immediately upon entering the venue? Are you willing to text me where they are as an accountability measure when you first get to the concert? 2.) Where will you keep your money and ID? (I was hoping she would say, she wouldn't carry a purse and put it in her pocket.) 3.) Will you have room for your inhaler? (She's asthmatic.) 4.) Do you have a bathroom plan? (I was hinting at going in groups.) 5.) Are you willing to commit to not accepting food or drink from anyone other than a vendor and do you know why I'm asking about that? Once she had a plan committing to personal safety, I told her to have fun. These kinds of practical scenarios with conversation guides are what the NEW and IMPROVED Enjoy Your Teen Group Coaching Experience starting Tuesday, March 22nd is about. We will apply the communication skills to real life teen scenarios and hot topics for 8 beautiful weeks. Private message me for details to join. I will ask a few qualifying questions and invite you in if we match. #enjoyyourteenagain #raiserespectfulparents #heart2heartparents #parentingsociology #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #parentingteensandtweens #parentingteens #communicatingwithteens #springbreak2022
Yesterday, we wrapped up the Fall Enjoy Your Teen Yesterday, we wrapped up the Fall Enjoy Your Teen Again Group Coaching Experience.I asked the members to share what was one of the biggest things they were taking away. One Dad, Tom said, “The entire approach! Instead of telling them what to do and teaching them lessons. I’ve learned how to engage them and have real conversations and see things from their perspective. I can still share what I feel and believe but it’s two way now.” A very creative mom, Janet said, “Active empathetic listening was not a real part of my parenting. I thought I listened before but I really didn’t. I was in the conversation for me, to impart my wisdom and persuade them to be compliant. By offering empathy in active listening I can truly hear what my teen is saying and I can see their whole person. It’s almost magical!” I’m so grateful to be a part of these inspiring parents’ lives. It was truly an honor and a privilege to witness their transformation to more conscious parenting. Blessings Fall Group. Now we welcome Spring! Message me if you want to sign up for the Spring group’s launch March 22nd. #parentingjourneytransformation #groupcoachingforparents #raiserespectfulparents #parentingsociology #consciouscommunication #consciousparenting #parentingtweensandteens #heart2heartparents
Have you downloaded the Conflict Free Conversation Have you downloaded the Conflict Free Conversation Checklist for Parents Raising Teens? Link in the bio.
Our teens deserve not only our active listening, b Our teens deserve not only our active listening, but also our empathetic listening. Learn and practice in the NEW and IMPROVED Enjoy Your Teen Again Group Coaching Experience. It starts Tuesday, March 22nd. Direct message for details. #enjoyyourteen #raiserespectfulparents #heart2heartparents #consciousparentingteens #consciouscommunication #parentingtweensandteens
Hayden and I went chacalaca chasing this weekend. Hayden and I went chacalaca chasing this weekend. What did you do?
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